Providing Clarity for Twins and Their Therapists
I am excited to announce that my new book, Twins in Session: Case Histories in Treating Twinship Issues, is scheduled for release on June 5, 2018. Much of the literature about twins either focuses on extreme emotional and relational abnormalities or perpetuates the stereotype of perfect synchronicity between twins. I wrote Twins in Session to share the stories of real twins who sought help for common, real-life twinship problems. I hope that these case studies will not only help other therapists better understand and treat twins but also validate twin readers’ often ambivalent feelings about their twinship and provide clarity about such a defining aspect of their identity.
Our culture’s idealization of twinship and twins’ own expectations can contribute to their difficulties. Twins often are perceived as, and essentially function as, two halves of a single entity. Twins are conditioned from birth onward to expect effortless intimacy with their twin, so they often feel deeply distraught when problems arise between them.
A twinship is a marriage that one does not choose, and twin pairs who have problems are very similar to couples in conflict. Therefore, twin therapy ideally helps twins recognize and accept each other as separate individuals with their own thoughts and feelings, communicate more honestly and effectively, and reestablish trust and stability. If a therapist understands the psychology of twinship and can articulate what is actually going on between the siblings, she can establish herself as a trusted outsider who can give her clients perspective about their twinship issues and assist them in developing healthier, more loving relationships.
I hope that Twins in Session will help more therapists provide knowledgeable counseling to twin clients. My professional colleagues’ response to the book has been positive—many of them told me that Twins in Session addresses a critical need in psychotherapy. I am grateful to Dr. Beatrice Beebe, Vivienne Lewin, and many others for such kind and enthusiastic words of support as these:
Informed by infant research and psychoanalytic developmental theory, this book offers a deeply empathic approach.
—Beatrice Beebe, PhD, Clinical Professor of Medical Psychology, Columbia University Medical Center
The case histories highlight the depth of entanglement of the twin relationship and emphasize how important it is for the therapist to understand the nature of twin relationships.
—Vivienne Lewin, MSc, psychoanalytic psychotherapist, London, and author of The Twin in the Transference and The Twin Enigma
Twins in Session can be preordered now on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and IndieBound.
I just read the first chapter of this book and believe it is very informative as a parent of twins who seem to have several of the issues mentioned. Do you have any recommendation on how to find a counselor / therapist that specializes in dealing with these twinship issues? I’m not seeing “twinship” listed as a specialty when doing searches of practitioners on our Blue Cross Blue Shield website.
Thank you for your kind comments about Twins in Session. Yes, it is indeed difficult to find a therapist who specializes in twin issues.
What you might do is find an out of network provider and then have the insurance company approve it, given that there is not specific coverage in this area.
Wishing you a healthy and happy New Year.
Any suggestions for how to go about finding an OON provider that specializes in twin issues? Do you have a group of fellow therapists / psychiatrists that you work/correspond with on twinship topics?
I have sent you an email regarding the information you have asked for.
I hope you will be successful in your search.