Survey - Joan A. Friedman, PhD

ADULT TWIN SURVEY

This survey is being conducted by Dr. Joan Friedman,
author of Emotionally Healthy Twins and of My Twin, My Self her upcoming book.
Your answers will contribute significantly to my twin research. Your information will be
treated confidentially and will not be shared, except in the form of de-identified quotes.

PART I
Please check "yes" or "no" after the following statements.

YES

Survey takers must be same sex twins over the age of 18.

1. I can't imagine loving anyone as much as my twin—and that worries me.

2. I've never had the chance to figure out who I am apart from my twin.

3. I would be lost if my twin moved to another city.

4. I feel guilty for wishing that my twin lived somewhere else so I could be more independent
from her/him.

5. I don't know how to tell my twin that I need more space without hurting her/his feelings.

6. I can't concentrate on my own life because I'm constantly worried about my twin's
well-being.

7. I feel guilty for not wanting to introduce my friends to my twin for fear I'll have to share
them with her/him.

8. I feel resentful that I can't achieve what I know I'm capable of, because I don't want to
outshine my twin.

9. I am often disappointed in my friends because they don't match up to my relationship with
  my twin.

10. I feel hurt that my twin shuts me out of his/her life.

11. I get very depressed when I think of how my twin and I have grown apart.

12. I get extremely upset when my twin expresses an opinion that's so opposite of mine.
    It feels like we're no longer connected.

13. I can't be straight with my twin and tell her/him how I really feel about our relationship.

14. I always feel that I'm competing with my twin, and this holds me back from what I really
    want to accomplish.

15. I feel like I have to fake feeling closer to my twin than I actually feel.

16. I hate it when my twin tells me how he/she wants us always to be as close as we were
    when we were kids. That's not how I feel at all, but I can't tell her/him that.

17. I wish I had never been born a twin.

18. I'm envious of non-twins who enjoy a more normal relationship with their siblings.

19. My boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse resents how close I am with my twin, and I don't know
     what to do about it.

20. I feel ashamed that I don't want my twin to feel closer to his/her partner than he/she
    feels toward me.

21. It bothers me that my twin doesn't approve of my choice in partners, and I worry that I'm
    too influenced by his/her opinions.

22. I think my relationship with my boyfriend/girlfriend/spouse would be much better if I
    didn't have to worry about my twin.

23. I’m constantly disappointed in the partners I choose because they don't compare to the
    closeness I feel with my twin.

24. I feel ashamed of how much I still need my twin; I want to let go, but I'm terrified to be
    without his/her emotional support.

25. I feel guilty for hoping that my twin will replace me with someone else.

PART II
In the space provided below, feel free to express your thoughts or relate your experiences
regarding any of the above statements - or any other issues or concerns you have about
being or having a twin.

PART III
If you would like to be interviewed by Dr. Joan Friedman for her upcoming book,
please complete the form below.

Your first name:

Your phone number:

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